Sometimes you just have to let go. Now that I’m in my 50s, that can be hard. When we’re young, we have a certain image of how our lives are going to go. That rarely works out. In the movie “Friends With Money,” Frances McDormand’s character has this exchange with her husband.
When I was job hunting, I'd always get attached to whatever job I was applying for — and I'd always remind myself to hope, "May the best thing happen." I try to do that with everything. I was trying to leave a job with a terrible culture, but for all I knew those shiny new jobs out there could have similar issues. In the end, I decided to become a consultant, and that's worked out well (except for making less money, lol). It's an ongoing process to learn to let go.
Have you read the book "Transitions" by William Bridges? He has some good insights on the value of being in a transition period like the one you're in. He writes about all kinds of transitions but is focused mainly on career ones.
Great piece, Adam. Learning to let go can be tough, especially at certain ages. I’ve been there and getting on the other side of the ‘letting go’ is empowering.
I love this, Adam. I really connected to the letting go message. Waterski rope is what I imagine in my mind to visually represent the act of letting go. Letting go of the idea of what successful meant to me has been revealing and not smooth. Embracing being around supportive, kind, compassionate people while working on a smaller scale has had more consistent joy. Your financial advisor needs a compassion lesson. Maybe use the waterski rope image and let go of them. Anyways, I felt connected and understood by your exceptional observations and writing. I will call you at Lands’ End - I love their stuff and will love them even more if they are good to you:
Thanks so much Mel. My financial advisor is great. She just deals with a lot of people who have issues with money and what it means. What she said was not a slam at all. I just had to reassure her that I didn't care what other people thought.
I haven't gotten hired at Lands' End either, although I worked on the phones there back in the day. I'm just considering getting a temp remote job to get some money coming in. That was actually a pretty good job - you sat down, logged in, talked to some people, and went home.
When I was job hunting, I'd always get attached to whatever job I was applying for — and I'd always remind myself to hope, "May the best thing happen." I try to do that with everything. I was trying to leave a job with a terrible culture, but for all I knew those shiny new jobs out there could have similar issues. In the end, I decided to become a consultant, and that's worked out well (except for making less money, lol). It's an ongoing process to learn to let go.
Have you read the book "Transitions" by William Bridges? He has some good insights on the value of being in a transition period like the one you're in. He writes about all kinds of transitions but is focused mainly on career ones.
I haven’t read that book, but I will look into it. Thanks, Rosana.
I found it very helpful!
Great piece, Adam. Learning to let go can be tough, especially at certain ages. I’ve been there and getting on the other side of the ‘letting go’ is empowering.
Thanks much Tracy. I’m working on it.
I love this, Adam. I really connected to the letting go message. Waterski rope is what I imagine in my mind to visually represent the act of letting go. Letting go of the idea of what successful meant to me has been revealing and not smooth. Embracing being around supportive, kind, compassionate people while working on a smaller scale has had more consistent joy. Your financial advisor needs a compassion lesson. Maybe use the waterski rope image and let go of them. Anyways, I felt connected and understood by your exceptional observations and writing. I will call you at Lands’ End - I love their stuff and will love them even more if they are good to you:
Thanks so much Mel. My financial advisor is great. She just deals with a lot of people who have issues with money and what it means. What she said was not a slam at all. I just had to reassure her that I didn't care what other people thought.
I haven't gotten hired at Lands' End either, although I worked on the phones there back in the day. I'm just considering getting a temp remote job to get some money coming in. That was actually a pretty good job - you sat down, logged in, talked to some people, and went home.