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Oh, I know that feeling!! Definitely had that about a few jobs, especially a job I had an in-person interview for, before covid, and it seemed like they wanted to hire me on the spot. They had even warned me that the job would be 80% writing. And it was in downtown SF, near where a lot of friends worked, so I was already envisioning lunches with them. They ended up ghosting me and I think they never filled the position. So weird.

It's challenging to avoid the expectation trap. As my job search progressed, I tried to tell myself, "May the best thing happen." That's what I try for in general in life, though it's a process and not always easy.

The advice to avoid expectations is so good for job searches — and also applies to all of life!

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Thanks as always for your comments, Rosana.

I have to say, “80% writing” sounds like a dream.

“May the best thing happen” is so brilliant. Thanks for sharing that.

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I got that line from a Vipassana meditation teacher. I use it often!

And yes, that guy was said 80% like it was a warning, but I thought it would be a dream. It was so weird not to get that job. But who knows what it would have been like!

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I can't tell you how much I appreciate your participation here, Rosana. You are always adding valuable insights.

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Thank you, that is very kind of you!

Of course, a "May the best thing happen" mentality is easier said than done. But it's a good thing to keep reminding ourselves of.

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